ARIES-SAGITTARIUS

The ARIES-SAGITTARIUS Relationship

... but perhaps the biggest adventure of all was that they
were several hours late for bed. This so inflated them that
they did various dodgy things to get staying up still longer,
such as demanding bandages . . . .
Both of these Sun Signs like to stay up late. They're afraid they might miss
something. That's why they're reluctant to retire early, leave parties early - or
walk past two strangers fighting in the street. Rams and Archers are forever being
advised by well-meaning friends, "Stay out of it. Mind your own business.

It's not your concern. It's a lost cause." This last warning is a mistake. These
two would walk a thousand miles for any cause, and if it's a lost cause, they simply
can't bear to stand by without trying to save it. The fact that it's none of
their business only makes it more intriguing, since both signs are infused with
excessive amounts of curiosity, as well as a determined opinion that they know
all the answers.
As for "demanding bandages," Aries and Sagittarius are also the most accident
prone in the zodiac (with Aquarius running a close third). For obvious reasons.
Not only on account of the traits just mentioned, but because Aries men
and women are always ramming their horns into places where angels fear to
tread - or even tiptoe. Sagittarians (symbolized by the Centaur, with bow and
arrow) are all just naturally born a little clumsy. It isn't easy to balance a body
that's half horse, half man. Neither is it easy to balance a personality that's half
philosopher, half clown.
Aries and Sagittarius get along pretty well most of the time, because they
have so much in common - like their noticeable abundance of idealism. No one
is more idealistic than the naive Ram, with the childlike faith that "wishing will
make it so," unless it's the Archers, who aim their arrows toward some galaxy
unseen by mortal man or woman.
Of course, today, with less idealistic people poisoning the Earth and its atmosphere,
the Jupiter arrows can get stuck in a mass of solid pollution before
they get past a low-hanging cloud. Rams and Archers aren't the only people
with good intentions, but they're usually too busy, especially as a team pushing
their ideas of Utopia (often running in concentric circles) to be sidetracked by
personal or political greed.
Another thing Aries and Sagittarius have in common is their fondness for
heated discussion. Only a Libra has more fun starting arguments. But logical
Libra is driven by a desire to be fair and see justice done. Rams and Archers are
simply constitutionally unable to ignore a verbal challenge for other reasons.
Aries argues because someone has dared to tell them they're wrong, when the
Rams know they're always infallibly right. Sagittarius argues because truth
isn't being told, and if there's anything an Archer can't stand, it's to hear truth
distorted.
The fable about the Emperor's new clothes is an excellent example. There
they were, all those brainwashed subjects, thousands of gullible people - standing
in the ditches, and cheering their insane Emperor as he paraded by in his
carriage - stark nude. Because he was their leader, and could therefore do no
wrong, they saw him draped in luxurious satins and velvets, sparkling with precious
stones. "See how beautiful the Emperor's clothes are!"
There's no telling what might have happened to that mythical kingdom, if a
small child (who could only have been a little Virgo girl with the Moon in Sag -
or a young boy Archer with the Moon in Virgo) hadn't shot an arrow of truth
into the crowd and called out (in modern idiom), "Hey! Dig that! The old
dude is as naked as a jay bird!" I don't remember what happened to the child
in the fable, but I hope the youngster wasn't picked up by the Emperor's guards
for interrogation. That would have been rough on the guards.
Anyone who has a Sagittarian for a friend has submitted to a certain
amount of verbal surgery. This cheerful, friendly puppy dog approaches you on
the street, whacks you on the back and opens up with, "Well, hello there - how
are you! My gawd, it's good to see you again, but I almost didn't recognize you.
Boy, are you skinny!" Then comes the usual Sagittarian apology for the rudeness,
because these people are basically kind-hearted, and only the occasional,
unevolved Archer would wound you deliberately. "Oh, no, I've done it again,
haven't I? Stuck my big foot in my mouth. You're probably sensitive about being
skinny, right?"
Or maybe this scene: "How are things going, old chum? Listen, I hear you
got fired because you've been hitting the bottle too much. That's nothing to be
ashamed of. Look at President Andrew Johnson. He was an alky, and they
tried to fire him too. Did you ever think of getting a job as a wine taster? Now,
there's a career where you could really go places! Say, how about bringing that
married woman you've been dating and dropping over to the house tonight?
Don't worry, I'll tell my wife to hide the liquor. You know what St. Patrick said.
God invented whiskey to keep the Irish from ruling the world!"
Producer-TV personality David Susskind is a double Sagittarian. (Sagittarius
Sun Sign and Ascendent.) Perhaps you caught his television show the
night of the famous interview between "friendly puppy dog" Susskind and the
bombastic Russian Ram, Nikita Khrushchev, which was running along quite
nicely until David looked Premier Khrushchev straight in the eye and shot out
something like: "Why is your country so deceptive, and why do your officials lie
so much?" How's that for warming up a cold war? Zing! Zowie! As papers
across the nation reported the following day, and even owners of black-and
white television sets could see, Aries Khrushchev's face turned several shades of
angry red, and his features strongly resembled a thundercloud about to explode
into a storm.
Aries normally admires and defends Sagittarian honesty, since Rams also
pride themselves on telling the truth. But they draw the line at hearing the
truth about themselves. That's a marked difference between Aries and Sag. The
Archer is nearly as blunt in making unflattering statements about himself - or
herself - as in telling others their faults. The Ram champions the truth only up
to the point where it begins to sting, or come too close to home. Aries people
aren't noted for easily recognizing or accepting their shortcomings and flaws.
Although most Sagittarian arrows are shot in good faith, with no real intent
to be malicious, an occasional unevolved and unenlightened Centaur will blast a
Ram with a cutting and cruel remark that bears no relation to truth, guided only
by a desire to hurt. (All traits of all twelve Sun Signs can be, at times, expressed
through their negative polarity.) While such a brutal Sag may get away with
this sort of behavior with most people, he or she will discover it isn't very smart
to so attempt to shoot down a Ram of either sex. The arrow will be shot right
back, with the added Martian thrust of righteous outrage, not always hitting its
mark immediately (Aries aim is not as true as the Archer's) but eventually finding
its fiery way home. Jupiter is a large and powerful star, but even in the sky,
Jupiter remains a healthy distance away from the warlike Mars, ruler of Aries.
To fail to defend against attack would disgrace the Mars reputation for fearlessness,
and topple the entire astrological structure. It will never happen.
But this is a 5-9 vibrational association, and the frequent friction between
these two can be smoothed with the quick regret and open forgiveness both Sun
Signs are capable of demonstrating when they've been naughty or unkind
toward each other. Neither Sag nor Aries is able to contain anger for long periods
of time, and neither Sun Sign bears ill will beyond the passion of the moment
- unless one of them happens to have a Scorpio Moon Sign. Then the injury
might be remembered for more than a few days. Even so, the Sun is more
powerful than the Moon's lighter influence, and eventually, the sunny dispositions
of the Ram and the Centaur will restore harmony between them.
Many careers and activities attract the wandering, restless Sagittarian,
from jungle safaris to gambling dens or the stock market, the biggest gambling
den of them all - from horse breeding or dog training to religion - from medicine
and the law to higher education - as long as the Archer is free to move
around, and talk - to take a chance, and find a thrill.
Many careers and activities attract the gregarious Aries too. Just pick a
profession, and the Ram will be happy to run it for you. They're not choosy, as
long as they can be boss. Aries is a Cardinal Sign of leadership. Sag is a Mutable
Sign, and less inclined to seek authority. Intuitively, the Archer knows the
boss is tied down to the desk, often being unable to take as many vacations as
his or her employees - and Sag does love those vacations! Actually, both of
them prefer being their own boss, and gravitate toward occupations or professions
where nobody tells them what to do, or when to do it.
Although the Ram and the Archer are both essentially extroverts, both born
under the Positive, Masculine Day Forces, you'll meet more quiet Archers than
quiet Rams. Perhaps that's because the more philosophically oriented Sagittarians
have discovered the hard way - and I do mean the hard way - that you
learn more when you're listening than when you're talking. After all, Jupiter
does rule higher education (among other things), and it's only natural that the
Jupiter-ruled gradually become adept at self-education. Archers are all naturally
intuitive, and the meaning of "in-tuition" is to be taught from within.
To understand the basic difference between Sag and Aries, it's necessary to
understand the differences between the two planets that rule them, Jupiter and
Mars. These two people are so much alike, on the surface, that it may be hard
to detect any differences, but there are.
Jupiter influences the Sagittarian man, child, woman, boy or girl to be expansive
(often to exaggerate experiences and feelings, but seldom the facts) - to
be brutally honest and extremely experimental, in all areas of life. Jupiter's vibration
also creates a great wanderlust in Sag, and blesses the Archers with occasional
flashes of prophetic vision. Symbolized by the Centaur, which is half
horse, half man, the Archer has far more personal confidence and assurance
than the Ram (never mind the Aries surface brashness) because Sag contains
the total experience of both human and beast.
Mars influences the Aries man, child, woman, boy or girl to be forceful and
direct in all ways - to fiercely defend themselves against attack - and to be
bravest in an emergency or a crisis. Such defense from the vibration of Mars is
necessary for the Aries person, because Aries is symbolized by the Infant, newborn,
and like the human infant, Aries would, quite literally, die without affection
and care, unless Mars protected.
Not as wisely prophetic as Sag, Aries, nonetheless, sees straight through to
the heart of all things, being blessed with a combination of Mars penetration to
the core and the Infant's innocence and naivete, which is the purest wisdom of
all. The most vital difference between these two, however, is that the Ram is far
more vulnerable to cruelty and neglect. Also, there is never maliciousness in the
Aries intent, for, like the newborn, Aries comprehends, essentially, only goodness
- whereas Sagittarius has lived long enough (soulwise) to have developed
more cynicism and worldly-wise attitudes.
Great idealism and striving are present in Sag, but seldom innocence. Sagittarius
has learned to think, to use the intellect, to prophesy and to philosophize.
Aries comprehends no other path to happiness than the newborn instinctive
emotional reaction to love and kindness. Only the fierce protection of Mars
keeps the Ram from being totally helpless in the hands of stronger people.
Wasn't it wise of our co-Creators, in arranging to keep the karmic plan in order
through astrology, to insure that the Infant of the karmic wheel would be
watched over and protected by the devoted warrior (and lover of Venus) Mars?
This is the graced-by-the-gods 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern, making compatibility
between the Ram and the Archer relatively easy to achieve. Both the rare, quiet
Arians and Sagittarians - and the more common, typical, extroverted types -
are far happier when they're both mentally and physically active, learning.
Like the proverbial prophets, Sag frequently fares better away from the place of
birth, and delights in traveling to get there (with little nostalgia for the "roots"
left behind). Aries suffers painful heart tugs from the memory of the "safety"
left behind, but nevertheless bravely joins the Archer, trying to match the faster
pace of the Centaur's canter. When the Ram joins Sag, and they travel together,
the trip may be a little noisy, but never dull, and they'll energetically defend
each other against any baddies who threaten them. Despite their frequent
squabbles, the unquenchable idealism of Sagittarius will forever move Aries to
spontaneous affection and an unaccustomed compassion - just as the Archer
will forever be touched by the naivete and honesty of Aries, knowing that here is
someone who can be trusted never to be hypocritical or disloyal. After all the
smoke has cleared away, these two will still be standing there, smiling at each
other with their hearts. You might say that the Ram and the Archer are combustible,
but compatible.

ARIES Woman SAGITTARIUS Man

The Never bird saw at once what he was up to, and
screamed....
To face an astrological truth bluntly and candidly, as Archers like to do, a Sagittarius
male is more likely than any other (with the exception of Gemini) to be
unfaithful in some way, if not physically, then mentally, through harmless flirting.
Naturally, that's a generality, certainly not true in every single case, with
every single Centaur. But it's true often enough to make a love affair between a
girl Ram and an even "mildly" promiscuous boy Archer about as much fun as
skipping rope in sandals with cherry bombs strapped to the heels. Any man who
thinks it would be a challenge to play that kind of romantic Russian roulette
with an Aries female would be safer taking American singer Anita Bryant to a
meeting of the Gay Liberation group. If you should run across a Mars-ruled girl
who claims she isn't jealous in the smallest way of her man's attentions to other
women, and theirs to him, she is either lying (because she has an afflicted Mars
or Mercury in her nativity) or she's adopted, and her parents didn't tell her her
true birth date. You can wager on it, and win. You have astrology's guarantee.
Of course, there's always the chance that she's not in love with the man who
doesn't arouse her jealousy (jealousy of all types being merely a deep-seated fear
of rejection), and she simply doesn't care. Aries ice. In fact, that's an excellent
barometer of the girl Ram's feelings. If she's casual or detached regarding her
lover or husband's flirtations, she's no longer in love, and he'll be told soon
enough that she's stopped caring. It's the earliest Mars warning signal of romantic
dissatisfaction, and very little time will elapse between such a signal and
the final goodbye wave from this woman.
Aries and Sag are both Fire Signs, and fire attracts nearby fire, simply by a
spark leaping from one flame to another, sometimes many feet through the air,
let alone across a room. Therefore, the Sagittarian man will be drawn to the
Aries woman almost from the first time they meet, for the purpose of either love
or friendship. Being influenced by the 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern, their natal Suns
are trined, and so they are, in a word - sympatico. It might be better if he aims
for friendship, instead of love, if he isn't quite yet ready to settle down to being
a one-woman-man. He may have enjoyed the four-in-a-bed scene in the American
film Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice, and accepted it all in a spirit of fun
and laughs - but she's the one who walked out on the scene, and tossed her buttered
popcorn in the usher's face as she left the theatre. (As I've said elsewhere
in this book, Aries anger is never discriminatory.)
One thing to be said in defense of a typical male Archer is that, if he's
tempted to succumb to the charms of a new love, he's as likely as the Aries woman
to confess it almost immediately. Basically the Jupiter-ruled male is both
sincere and honest. Neither of these two will ever carry on a long-term deception.
Admittedly, with an Aries girl, he'd be better off not being quite so truthful.
He shouldn't feel obliged to report to her every single wink he receives from
the predatory females who abound these days, urged as they continually are
from so many directions to be sure they aren't deprived of their share of multiple
sexual adventures, with no rules to the game except variety. The Mars woman's
imagination supplies her with more than enough images of infidelity, without
his adding the burden of meaningless winks to her feelings, and to their
relationship.
It seems strange for a girl with such apparent self-confidence, who is so
openly independent, to be so emotionally vulnerable. But she is, and she suffers
greatly through her inner fear of being hurt or deceived in love. Aries is a masculine
sign, and so the girl Ram is never quite certain of her femininity. This
makes her secretly believe that even women who are clearly less intelligent and
less attractive than she, are nevertheless more desirable to the man she loves, if
for no other reason than their outward feminine manners. Wondering about a
thing like this can be an indescribable private torture. Yet, unfortunately, her
outbursts of jealousy will often receive little real sympathy or compassion from
an Archer, who places a high value on personal freedom and mutual trust between
two people in love.
Such an attitude is all well and good, but if he doesn't train himself to be
somewhat more gentle with this woman's basic nature, and try to handle her
hidden fears with more tender concern - being willing to talk things over with
her now and then, to ease her mind - he'll lose her more quickly than he found
her. And the emptiness she leaves in his heart may not be as easy as he thinks
to fill. There's always a terrible feeling of loneliness on both sides when a man
and woman whose natal Suns are trined, and who truly loved each other, separate.
If the feeling they thought was love was only friendship, and was, therefore,
inaccurately defined by them from the beginning, the parting will be less
painful - and they may even be friends again later. But not if they deeply
loved. The pain is too great, then, to transmute former affection into a casual
friendship.
If mutual trust can be established between them, from the start, an Aries
girl has an excellent chance for emotional harmony with a Sagittarian man, and
he with her. Many Archers are sexually stable and reliable, and with those who
are, love between these two can be eternally exciting and always stimulating -
emotions which, in an odd sort of way, bring peace and contentment to the
hearts of those born under Fire Signs. Peace and contentment within, you see,
are not achieved in exactly the same manner by everyone.
Both these lovers are optimistic, open-hearted, warm and friendly. They're
also both visionaries, but his visions are more practical, since Sagittarius, unlike
Aries, has the prophetic ability to foresee the outcome of his dreams from their
inception, as well as the self-honesty to separate them from mere fantasies,
based on delusion. Although they're both expert at tossing pie-in-the-sky, his
pies are seldom half-baked.
When this man and woman fall in love, the blend of her Mars enthusiasm
with his Jupiter daring, gives them an insurance against boredom. Love seldom
grows cold between two people who share a mutual excitement for new ideas,
and an eternal youthfulness of spirit. They'll probably even vote alike, because
it's an extremely exceptional Ram or Archer who isn't politically liberal. There
are occasional conservatives born under both Sun Signs, of course, although the
odds are that a Sag more than Aries will lean slightly to the Right. Even so, the
rare conservative Sagittarian will be motivated by political idealism. Since they
both feel strongly about the burning issues of the day, this is more important
than it may seem as a contributing factor to their compatibility.
It's only fair to warn the Aries girl that a Sagittarian man is more likely to
remain a bachelor than any other Sun Sign, except Virgo and Aquarius. His affectionate,
impulsive nature (very much like her own) allows him to slide into a
romance easily, and he can be precipitated by her Mars force into a commitment
he's not ready to keep. Since most Archers refuse to lie at the altar, broken engagements
and disappearing grooms are not uncommon with this Sun Sign.
They're not cruel - just honest. I know one Sagittarian man who's been promising
to marry a charming widow for more years than either of them can remember.
She's still waiting, with Cancerian tenacity. If she were an Aries, she'd tell
him to go dunk his donuts in someone else's coffee, lock her door and change her
telephone number. Sudden action like this often brings an Archer to his senses,
if he really loves the woman. If he doesn't, she has only herself to blame. He
probably never actually told her he loved her. Sagittarian men are usually quite
careful not to say "I love you," unless they mean it, and they have plenty of
dodgy verbal tricks to get out of it, without arousing suspicion. Here are a couple
that every red-blooded male Archer has used, at one time or another. Pay
close attention to the exact words.
GIRL: Darling, you do love me, don't you?
ARCHER: (hurt and angry): How can you ask me a ridiculous question like that?
You don't know how I feel by now?
(or perhaps ...)
GIRL: DO you really love me? Do you really?
ARCHER: What do you think, sweetheart? I don't see how you can wonder.
(Showering her immediately with passionate kisses.)
Later, she'll accuse him of emotional breach of promise, but she didn't listen
carefully. He didn't lie to her. Sagittarians never lie. Didn't you know
that?
Normally, this man is not the domestic type. Look at the way he treats his
own family - casually. And the way he loves his own relatives - from a distance.
But the girl Ram isn't tied down to the heart either, so she won't mind
his wandering, as long as he takes her with him. If she gives him miles of rope
and lets him know that she, too, believes in personal freedom, the Archer can be
a generous and stimulating partner, in or out of wedlock. She should learn to
love animals, because sooner or later, this man will bring home a dog or a horse.
If they live in a small apartment, let's hope it's a dog.
He may spend lots of time at the stables, in the woods, hiking or camping -
involving himself in sports as a participant or spectator - or involving himself
in the theatre as a participant or spectator. The more intellectual type of
Archer will substitute books and philosophy for nature, sports or the stage, but
whatever, his interests will frequently be outside the home. It doesn't mean he
isn't in love with her, and the Aries girl must realize that, if she wants to hold
him for keeps.
Their sexual adjustment is almost automatic. Both of them are deeply affectionate,
and passion is never lacking, since they're both Fire Signs. His approach
to physical lovemaking may be slightly more casual and detached than
hers, and not quite so intense, but it will be no less sincere, and certainly no less
idealistic. Each is capable of a warm response, which can make their intimacies
wonderfully fulfilling, although perhaps not completely free of sexual selfishness
(one of the most common causes of sexual disharmony). They may both have to
learn that real happiness comes from an inner need to love - not to be loved.
The lesson shouldn't be too difficult, because the sense of giving is strong in
both their natures. Since they're also mentally and emotionally well mated, the
physical relationship between them (barring jealousy and unfaithfulness) can be
ideal in every sense.
She won't like it when he sometimes makes promises he can't keep, for Archers
often impulsively reach out farther than their arms can stretch. She may
explode into angry tears when he carelessly blurts out an unpleasant truth,
without regard for her sensitive feelings. And she could become annoyed with
his clumsy attempts at humor, which can be poorly timed. Sagittarians are half
clown, you know, and the antics of clowns are never subtle. She's stuck with
Emmett Kelly, so why not accept his peanuts and cotton candy, laugh and enjoy
it? Although he may occasionally resent her claims on his freedom and her demands
on his time, he'll admire her bright mind and respect her independence.
As for the possibility that his Jupiter tendency to promiscuity will ignite
her Mars jealousy, don't overlook the Archer's strong sense of honor and personal
integrity. He'll behave the way he's expected and trusted to behave. There's
an old metaphysical formula, so magical, it works wonders. A friend of mine,
Hank Fort, once wrote a song, with lyrics that sum up this infallible Universal
Law, and they say, in p a r t . . .
give makes give - greed makes greed
flower makes flower - and weed
makes weed clean makes clean - dust makes dust
doubting makes doubting - and trust makes trust
The Aries woman in love with an Archer, who repeats that last line over and
over again when her heart is troubled, will discover that it's truly a miracle mantra
that will bring her more reasons to rejoice than to cry. For truth makes
truth, you see - and lie makes lie.

ARIES Man SAGITTARIUS Woman

... and then Peter gripped her and began to draw her
toward the window.
"Let me go!" she ordered him Of course she was
very pleased to be asked.
A Sagittarian girl who's attracted to an Aries man is only doing what comes naturally.
She admires courage, craves excitement, likes to have fun - and the
Ram is certainly not a stick-in-the-mud. True he's somewhat bossy, and inclined
to insist on getting his own way. But he's eternally a sentimental romanticist,
and that's what she's looking for, even though this girl may not recognize
her own goal until someone points it out to her. Once she is made to realize it,
however, she'll gather a goodly number of scars from looking for it in all the
wrong places and ways. But she'll cover them, often with the mask of the clown.
Sag always tells a joke when Jupiter's idealism has been struck. It's a defense
mechanism. This woman desperately needs romance, because only romance can
heal her instinctive cynicism. She was born somewhat skeptical, and her excursions
into love frequently do nothing to soften it, but instead, only sharpen it -
and her wit.
Not being overly sensitive (unless his Moon is in a Water Sign, or his birth
chart contains an extremely well-aspected Neptune), the average Aries man
isn't greatly perceptive when it comes to analyzing human nature. He more or
less takes people as he finds them and may therefore find her need for romance
difficult to conceive when she comes on to him like a comic Valentine, with a
cynical laugh, lugging a copy of Kate Millett's Sexual Revolution, and defying
him to possess her. Or when she wears one of her other Sagittarian theatrical
masks that disguise her as a wacky, wriggling puppy - or as a shy, withdrawn
spinster.
In her heart, the Sagittarian girl longs for an intelligent, honest man, who
will take her into his warm arms and protect her forever - from herself. Before
he can do that, the Ram will have to gently remove her greasepaint, and tell her
firmly that the musical comedy is over. She'll protest, because she loves the theatre
and she also shares Cinderella's fear of the midnight curfew, when her
coach turns into a pumpkin. Nevertheless, it must be done. A girl Archer is
much easier to handle when she's sitting in a pumpkin, barefoot and humble,
than when she's flying around at the ball, flirting and flapping her defiance at a
man. Once she's been properly bent into submission (a task about as easy as
trying to pass a race horse while riding a turtle), she can be the sweetest woman
in the world. But the Aries man will need a quick turtle to catch the Sagittarius
mare.
He can comfort himself with the thought that this girl is not only slightly
clumsy in a physical sense (despite her graceful walk and bearing) - she's also a
little clumsy emotionally. Sooner or later, she'll stumble. Then he can pick her
up in his warm, understanding arms, plunk her down in that pumpkin, and
demonstrate the facts of life to her - the facts of life being that he is a man and
she is a woman. (Sag is a masculine sign, you know.) He could find this even
more of a challenge than taming the Aries female, because a girl Archer, being
half horse, can run faster than a Ram. If he can convince her that she can trust
him to love her completely (unlike those other phony hypocrites who broke her
heart), she'll reward him with freedom, stimulating conversation, devoted
friendship, affection, humor, warmth and generosity. All that is surely worth a
little trouble at the starting gate.
In the beginning, the Ram will be outraged by her blunt speech and lack of
consideration for his tender male ego. Neither will he be happy with her sheer
luck in winning all the Monopoly games by intuitively grabbing up Boardwalk
and Park Place, and in general, making him look foolish in front of his friends
with her frankness. Aries men are determined to retain their masculine superiority,
independence and personal freedom at any cost. If he has trouble communicating
this to her, he might try a little history. "Baby, do you know who wrote
the greatest statement of freedom the world has ever known - the Declaration
of Independence? A male Ram, named Tom Jefferson. Who else could have
authored such a glorious example of independence, but an Aries?" It might impress
her.
Of course, there are other things that same history lesson might teach her
too, like the absence of humility in the Mars nature. Arian Thomas Jefferson
also wrote his own epitaph, a typical example of Aries modesty: "Here lies
Thomas Jefferson, Author of the Declaration of Independence, Author of the
Statute of Virginia for Religious Liberty, and Founder of the University of Virginia."
He didn't have to mention that he was President. That was already taken
care of elsewhere on his marker, by tradition. So Tom could afford the selfeffacing
gesture of excluding it from the tribute to his accomplishments which
he composed himself. Like all Rams, Thomas Jefferson was a radical, an innovator
of new ideas, a fiery lover of independence - and most certainly not bashful.
But why should he have been? After all, he did pioneer, develop and manifest
all those things, with his Mars enthusiasm and courage. Why should he
hide his light behind a bushel of false humility? In the area of ego, the Aries
man and his Sagittarian woman won't have much tension. Well, maybe a little,
but not much. As a Cardinal sign, he can't help his instincts to lead. As a Mutable
sign, she's not consumed with the ego or personality. She'd rather keep it
tucked out of sight if it interferes with her traveling around in her mind, or geographically.
Mutable signs are not unduly ego-driven. (The other two Mutables
are Pisces and Virgo, and these people are hardly pushy egotists.) Of the three
Mutables, Sag is perhaps the most conscious of the self, and the "self-consciousness"
of the Archer is seldom overdone.
The term "self-conscious" is confusing and contradictory. One thinks of it
as indicating humility or embarrassment - or a degree of introversion. Isn't
this the image conjured for you when a person is described as "self-conscious"?
Oddly, we Americans have twisted the true meaning, which is, of course, "conscious-
of-the-self' - and that certainly has naught to do with humility, introversion
or any of those submerging-of-the-ego patterns. Anyway, whatever, the
girl Centaur is a few degrees more self-conscious than her Pisces and Virgo mutable
sisters, yet considerably less so than the male Ram.
Not all, but by far the largest majority of Sagittarian women prefer male
friends to female friends, so the jealous Ram will have lots of opportunities to
remind himself that she's only being friendly, cheerful and gregarious, not unfaithful.
She's more than a little inclined toward jealousy herself when goaded,
but not nearly so much as he. Whatever number of mean little green monsters
do hide in the background of her aura won't have many chances to appear, because
her Aries lover or husband also prefers the company of men. Isn't that
lucky?
That's another thing. This girl is lucky. Somehow, a great many of her
worst goofs turn out right side up, under the benevolent and fortunate influence
of her ruler, Jupiter, who blessed her at birth like a faerie godfather (an interesting
term) with the shining qualities of faith and optimism, which, when combined,
are a mighty powerful force for sheer "luck," which isn't luck at all, only
the result of the law of magnetism. One attracts what one images - and she images
happiness a great deal of the time.
Despite her general air of loose or unconventional social behavior, remember
that Jupiter rules spiritual insight and prophetic essence of all religion.
This girl possesses an inner innocence and a touching faith in people (at least
she did when she was younger) that often place her in awkward positions, and
make it seem she's more flirtatious than she really is. It all begins so innocently.
ARIES: You spent the entire night in Mr. Cromwell's town house because he's
your boss, and he needed you? I'll just bet he needed you, that sneaky
old goat. As for you, you have the morals of an alley cat. (Rams are not
noted for their care in choosing words when the Mars temper is exploding.)
SAG: His dog was due to have puppies, and he was going to let her have them
all by herself. Someone had to help the poor thing.
ARIES: A dirty old man who seduces his secretary into sleeping with him is not a
poor thing.
SAG: I meant the dog. Mr. Cromwell is a creep. He went to bed, and I had to
deliver the puppies all by myself in the kitchen. One of them was born
dead. It was so sad. I cried all the way home in the taxi.
ARIES: You cried a l l . . . so that's why your makeup is smeared. Darling, I'm
sorry, I didn't realize . . .
SAG: YOU mean you didn't trust me. Don't try to apologize. You called me an
alley cat. That's an obvious indication of your psychotic hatred for animals,
using a poor cat to symbolize a prostitute - which you think I am.
Just leave - I never want to see you again!
A few scenes like that, changing names, places and situations, and the Ram
will learn, hopefully before he's lost her, that unfounded jealousy is something
she won't stand for, because it implies she's dishonest, and Sagittarians all have
a thing about truth and integrity that amounts to a regular neurosis with some
of them. Just ask their psychiatrists. If she had submitted to Mr. Cromwell's
seductions, she would probably have told Aries quite frankly, leaving out none
of the lurid details.
Barring such a forthright confession, the Ram should have faith in her.
True, Sagittarian women, like Gemini and Pisces women, percentage-wise, are
tempted more often into experiments in sexual promiscuity or multiple affairs
than their other Sun Sign sisters, because they are Mutable, and also dual in nature
- but the Archer is not sneaky. Whatever the Aries man may accuse her
of, it should not be deception. This woman will always be true to herself, and to
the man she loves, until she falls out of love with him - or until he unfairly
doubts her. Even then, she's more apt to break off their relationship angrily and
emotionally than to be unfaithful simply to punish him. (Unless she has a Scorpio
Moon Sign or Ascendent.) Even those girl Archers who have a history of casually
changing sexual partners will normally indulge in only one affair at a
time, and such behavior is usually triggered by a series of severe romantic disillusionments.
Both Sag and Aries are equally guilty of flashes of conceit, bossiness and
recklessness, which they both consider to be virtues. They're also both hampered
by a contempt for caution, prudence and patience, which they both consider
to be vices.
Once they've discovered that compromise is the best way to solve their disagreements
and end their quarrels, they can achieve a kind of mental and emotional
harmony, not to mention physical harmony, that couples who don't gamble
for such high stakes (and who are not guided by the graced-with-mutual-sympathy
5-9 vibration) could ever hope to reach. Their sexual rapport should be both
stimulating and quieting . . . warm, imaginative . . . and full of shooting stars. As
long as she remembers that "silence is golden" during their lovemaking and refrains
from puncturing his passion at a strategic point with one of her Sagittarian
verbal arrows. Intimate moments are not the ideal time for cheerful chatter or
candid observations. Otherwise, the way these two express and share the sexual
side of their love can be deeply satisfying for both of them.
Neither of these two Sun Signs is stingy by nature, so money shouldn't create
many problems between them, except perhaps where and how to get it, after
they've spent it all. If it comes to a race to see who's more extravagant, you can
bet on the Ram, since the typical or average Archer is normally a few (short)
lengths behind Sag in scattering lettuce around carelessly. Her general disposition
may be a degree or so calmer than his too, but you can't really depend on
this, unless she has a Pisces or Taurus Ascendent or Moon Sign, so he'd best not
think it will save him when he tries to boss her around, or insult her cooking or
housekeeping, neither of which are the average girl Archer's strong points.
The important thing for the Aries man to realize is that this girl is as much
of an idealist about love and Life as he is - perhaps even more so. Her popularity
and her friendly, open manner with men doesn't change the quality of her
basic integrity. Does his fondness for innocent and harmless feminine admiration
mean infidelity on his part? No, it doesn't. Seldom, if ever. Like her, he'll
remain faithful to love until love is no longer there, and even then will tend
more to confession than to secrecy. But he might consider the fact that she has
her fears too. Very much like his own. As long as he's honest with her, this girl
will love him with her whole heart, run bravely alongside him wherever he wants
to go. She may lose her temper and say things she doesn't mean - but the moment
she knows he's really hurt, she'll rush to his side to bind up his wounds,
whether they're physical or emotional, with an unexpected tenderness and gentleness.
Then the flames of their Fire Element natures will ignite all over again,
just like the first time.
The only thing he needs to remember is to be honest with her always -
keep the make-believe and excitement alive in their relationship - and not
speak rashly, in anger. Exactly the same things she needs to remember about
him. These two are so much alike. Proud. Brave. Generous. Impulsive. Pas-
sionate. Independent. Idealistic. And very, very vulnerable to coldness and rejection
. . . especially from each other. Once they've permanently conquered
their mutual unintentional selfishness, nothing can separate them. The
strength of their love is unconquerable. Mars and Jupiter are a formidable combination.